It's a heart breaking thought that nobody wants to dwell over, but euthanizing a cat is something we may all have to consider when faced with a deterioration of quality of life, or severe or dangerous behaviour.

The decision to put a cat to sleep is always difficult and intensely personal. Unless there is a serious urgency such as an untreatable injury or illness, you will probably have time to examine your options and talk to family and friends. Ultimately the decision is yours, but base your decision on what's right for your pet's comfort.

The procedure is quick and, more importantly, absolutely painless. Your vet will administer a measured overdose of anaesthetic, and your cat will quickly slip into a deep and permanent sleep with no discomfort or distress. Some owners choose to have their pets cremated and keep the ashes in a special container.

Don't feel foolish grieving. You may even need to take off a few days from work. Grieving is a normal, healthy reaction to the loss of a family member - which our cats really are. And don't forget that putting your cat to sleep is the final kindness you can offer. It allows your pet to pass away gently and with dignity.

Time, of course, is the great healer. Creating a memorial can help, like holding a small remembrance service in your garden or planting a tree or plant. Talking to someone who has been through a similar experience is also a great comfort, which is one of the reasons why The Society of Companion Animal Studies has teamed up with the Blue Cross to create a 'Befriender Service'.

Telephone 'Befrienders' are there to counsel and listen to pet owners who have been bereaved. Befrienders are volunteers of all ages and backgrounds, have completed a six-month training programme, and receive calls in their own home. They offer a 'listening ear' to help pet owners work through their loss.

You can contact their helpline on freephone 0800 096 6606 every day between 8.30 and 5.00pm. A co-ordinator will provide you with the contact details of the nearest available befriender. Alternatively, you can visit their website at www.scas.org.uk. The site also offers a range of articles to give you all the support you need at this difficult time.